Fifty… though I don’t particularly like ’50 shades of grey’ it gives a good example of how many different shades there are to us, to our minds. We would all like to assume we know how, and why we act the way we do, but when we get put into a position, a true, life-changing position, none of us really know until we get there.
Some would call it a crucible, but no one really knows whether, when danger approaches them, that they would hit it head on, or run away. There aren’t just one option or the other, there are fifty shades, or more of what is between that. There is not just the right way to fix a problem, and a wrong way, but there are fifty ways, and you choose one, and hold onto it.
It might seem strange, senseless or outright crazy, but from what I can say, no one knows what they would do in your position, until they are in your position.
Over the summer I got mad with someone for messing me around, but I think I can see now what went on, that she was just as confused as I was, but she acted; she couldn’t just sit in a place of liminal delusion. She had a choice to make, and she made it.
So, I do understand now.
Whether fifty choices, or five hundred choices, none of us know the right answer, and it’s about time we stop pretending we do.
So, next time you doubt yourself, or worry about choosing the wrong way, as opposed to the right, take a step back, and look. There are many choices before you, in your day, in your week, in your life, not just one or two, but countless; it’s up to you to make that decision, no one can tell you that you’re wrong. They are just choices, without an alignment attached.
Quite often, ‘the wrong choice’ can lead to the right one.